I am such a psycho magnet that I can't believe I'm writing this because I'm still with the psycho and if he knew he would be certified psycho. I've been with "the freak" for a little over a year now. when we met I lived almost 2 hr. away and drove back and forth for awhile until I finally moved to be with him. in the beginning I heard that he was the player of all players. but because I was in denial of being a psycho magnet, I thought he would change for me. and he did for awhile. until about 2 months ago things were great. people couldn't believe he was still faithful and that he had changed so much. the fairy tale ends here. we started arguing quite a bit and the littlest things would set either of us off. I was having some problems of my own and he said I was neglecting him and he was lonely, which may have very well been true. I went home for ONE NIGHT. when I come back he informs me (while we're sitting in his parents hot tub after having his birthday dinner) that he went out while I was gone with some friends from his new job. then tells me that he kissed one of the corporate trainers there. immediately I know he's full of shit and demand to know what really happened. he proceeds to tell me in bits and pieces over the next hour that they kissed outside of the bar, the drove to the park behind our apartment complex and had sex on a picnic table!!!! of course his immediate reasoning is that we were having our problems and he was lonely and drunk and wanted to feel like he was wanted. he begged me to forgive him and told me wanted to work through things. that isn't the psycho part. I actually told him that it would take me awhile but that I would deal with it and we would make it. THE NEXT DAY he informs that he actually doesn't want to work things out because when he woke up the morning after it happened he realized that we were too far apart emotionally and he wasn't in love with me. that isn't the psycho part. here's the psycho part. after much arguing which included me smacking the crap out of him and squeezing certain body parts that are still a source of pain for him and him shoving my head out of the car window to get me to stop, I find out his main reason for wanting to split up. keep in mind that "the freak" tells me he still loves me and knows that one day he'll fall in love with me again and be with me forever. he wants time apart right now to find himself. which includes the following: proving to himself that he can still get any girl he wants. not just to sleep with her but to see just how much she'll do to be with him. whether that's cheating on her boyfriend or just something really sexually freaky. but here is the best part. "the freak" and I live together and right now he still wants to be friends. "the freak" actually wants me to be his partner in getting these girls so that we can have threesomes!!! not only to prove it to himself that he can make a girl want him so much that she would sleep with another girl to get to him, but because he feels that it may help him to fall in love with me again!!!! he even wanted me to go out with him and the girl he cheated on me with to "get to know her"! but don't worry...when this is all out of his system...I'm still the one he "loves".